I was driving home from teaching my religion class this morning and thinking about some of the families I am working with. I realized I don't know if I've put into words the fact that anyone can learn to do what I do. I speak of it all the time, but I don't know if I've actually said it on this forum.
So. Here we go.
Do you remember how I talked about your spoken language being like a foreign language for people like me? So if that is a foreign language, what is our "mother tongue?" It is the language of the heart and emotions, or energy (depending on your personal spiritual or intellectual beliefs). We speak spirit fluently. You can learn to speak our language just like we can learn to speak yours. It is work, because it is a foreign language. It takes time and a lot of practice. You can't learn a foreign language from one lesson.
I am able to communicate with your loved ones, and it is easier for me than for you, but it is not impossible for you to learn. The more you try to learn his language, the more he will try to learn your language. Now, that is not to say that there are not still physical therapies and other things that need to be done. You will have an easier time learning our language than we have learning yours. You just have to learn to open your heart; learn to hear and trust your own voice and then the difference between the other "voices" will let you learn who it is you are "picking up" on. Does that make sense?
Anyhow. For people like me to learn your language, we have to learn a new muscle coordination, as well as the actual work of learning a new language. All you have to do is learn the language....actually. I take that ALL back. You do have to learn a new muscle skill. It is internal, it is the ability to open your heart and have it work in tandem with your head. Hmmmm. Yep. So we have an equally hard time learning each others' language. That makes me feel better.
Okay. Back to how you go about "hearing" your loved one. I've been trying to give you steps here and there to help. Whenever you have read a post about opening your heart, being aware of the emotions you have and the emotions in the room, healing your heart, etc...all of those posts are part of learning our language. I am not sure how to teach it outside of a seminar setting. Maybe we could set up a webinar or something.
If you are interested in a webinar, or a local seminar, will you contact me please? Thanks!
Now. About the language. It is something that, when starting out, will feel odd. Have you ever learned a new language? You say a few words, with a very unsure air. You may or may not be able to have the correct accent or enunciation and it may sound a little funny to your ears. But as you practice, it begins to sound more and more like the language you are hearing others speak.
This is no different. You will be learning a new skill that may feel foreign or weird, but it will become more comfortable as you practice and keep learning. It is not easy. When I tried to open myself back up to all of this after so many years of being closed, it took a lot of courage and faith. It was not easy. It is definitely on the top 5 list of hard things I've had to do/been through in my life. But I promise it is worth it.
It is a transformation from an autopilot life to an life lived on purpose, a life filled with meaning. It is not easy to do at first, but after you step into it, you'll wonder how you ever lived any other way. There is nothing like seeing and believing in your best self. That is the view that will come from learning to live in both worlds.